There are lessons for all of us in the Steven Ccurtis Chapman double tragedy where the youngest son accidentally kills the youngest daughter. How do you deal with such grief? I have written an essay on this; if you wish, you can read here: http://frankahilario.blogspot.com/
There are lessons for all of us in the Steven Ccurtis Chapman double tragedy where the youngest son accidentally kills the youngest daughter. How do you deal with such grief? I have written an essay on this; if you wish, you can read here: http://frankahilario.blog.com/
Frankenstein, I read your blog and frankly, found some of it a bit insensitive and over the top, especially the title including don’t be “Sue-sad.” Gimme a break. Also, your hunger for all the facts and naming the actual son and other details associated with the story is not being respectful of the family.
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. If you read only parts of my essay, your conclusion will be based on parts of the truth.
Naming names is not a disrespect - it would be if I implied, ever so slightly, that Will Franklin was guilty of negligence or was a reckless driver. I did no such thing. You must judge the book by the book and not by the cover alone.
On the contrary, even if I have to say this myself, my essay was very respectful of the family. In fact, it was written because I wanted to grieve with them, and wanted them to know what I found out about how to grieve ‘right.’
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. If you read only parts of my essay, your conclusion will be based on parts of the truth.
......it was written because I wanted to grieve with them, and wanted them to know what I found out about how to grieve ‘right.’
I know you did not mean any disrespect and I can appreciate your sincere thoughts. And YES, I did read the entire blog. My comments were focused on the cheesey and insensitive areas of the blog—the title and play on words “Sue-sad” (come on!).... and when most press releases and coverage failed to name the exact son (for obvious reasons), you felt it necessary to post it in a blog because of your need to reveal all the facts. I cannot speak for SCC or his family, but if it were ME, I would NOT appreciate your comments and play on words, nor your passion to reveal the whole story to the whole world for truth’s sake or whatever motive you have, sincere or not. Sometimes it is just better to let someone who is grieving know that you care, rather than taking the approach you have, that’s all. Telling the SCC family not to be sad for their loss and attempting to tell them how they SHOULD feel or grieve is totally INAPPROPRIATE in my book. And that’s not just the cover.
I’m sorry to say you did not get the point of the essay - which is how to grieve ‘right’ or ‘well.’ A tragedy like that needs more than expressions of sympathy, more than a million prayers - they have to deal with it themselves, the stark reality of it, the names of the people involved, because God, no matter how powerful our prayers are, will not do the grieving for them. Grieve with faith, hope, love, laughter. And do you know that that’s exactly what the Chapmans did when they buried Sue? They laughed and they cried. Tears are appropriate; peals of laughter is appropriate. That’s why I wrote the essay - anything else is secondary.
I’m sorry to say you did not get the point of the essay - which is how to grieve ‘right’ or ‘well.’ A tragedy like that needs more than expressions of sympathy, more than a million prayers - they have to deal with it themselves, the stark reality of it, the names of the people involved, because God, no matter how powerful our prayers are, will not do the grieving for them. Grieve with faith, hope, love, laughter. And do you know that that’s exactly what the Chapmans did when they buried Sue? They laughed and they cried. Tears are appropriate; peals of laughter is appropriate. That’s why I wrote the essay - anything else is secondary.
Okay, this is my last post on this. Say what you will, justify as much as you can. “Anything else is secondary”—makes me wonder that your reasoning says it’s okay to print things in poor taste as long as you feel the rest of the material accomplishes your goal. Don’t get it. And yes, I got your point of the essay. You want to encourage and instruct. No excuse for statements or phrases in poor taste, but you seem to fail to get that point. Okay, I’m done. Think what you will.
